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 Boy-Girl Relationship





1.               Level One: Brother/Sister (Friendship).


1.1            Process:

MATURITY – social, spiritual, physical and emotional growth.


1.2            What guidelines do you need to follow in your relationship with the opposite sex when you are in the process of growing and maturing?


q  relationship

1 Tim 5:1,2

q  friendship

1 Sam 18:1-4

Prov. 17:17

Eccl. 4:9,10

q  honesty

q  ‘give attention to all, intention to none’

q   interpersonal relationship skills.

q  ‘people are people and not things to be used’



q   communication skills.

Levels of communication:

(1)  cliché

(2)  reporting facts

(3)  expressing ideas and judgement

(4)  expressing emotions

(5)  peak communication

q   commitment to Lordship and discipleship

Matt 6:33

Matt 10:34-39

Luke 9:23

Rom 12:1


2.               Level Two: Interest.


2.1            Process:

AQUAINTANCE - getting to know one another.


2.2            What guidelines would you follow when you ‘get interested’ in a person of the opposite sex?


q  dating

q  some considerations in choosing a partner

q  non-Christians

Ex. 34:12-16

Amos 3:3

2 Cor. 6:14-18

1 Cor. 2:14

q  wait

Psalms 27:14

Isa. 64:4

Isa. 30:18


q  how to discover God’s will?



3.               Level Three: Going Steady.


3.1            Process:

SHARING – sharing deeply one’s life” goals and interests. To know for sure that both of you make a good marriage risk and that your love is enduring.


3.2            What guidelines would you follow to enjoy a balanced, developing and God honoring relationship?


q  knowing for certain that you are in love with the other person.

q  limiting physical involvement. - petting

q  purity

Acts 15:20


1 Thess. 4:3.7

1 Thess. 5:23

1 Peter 1:15,16

q  self-control

Acts 24:16

Rom 6:12

1 Cor. 9:26

Gal. 5:23

q  temptation and victory

Prov. 1:10,15,16

1 Cor. 10:12,13

James 1:12-15

q  priorities in life.

q  solving conflicts.



4.               Level Four: Engagement.


4.1            Process:

COURTSHIP – preparation for marriage.


4.2            What guidelines do you need to biblically fulfill your future roles as partners in a marriage?


q  love is blind, marriage an eye opener’.

q  becoming a godly husband.

Eph. 5:32

q  becoming a godly wife

Prov. 31:10-31

1 Peter 3:3-4

2 Kings 4:8-36

q  in-laws











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