1.
Level
One: Brother/Sister (Friendship).

1.1
Process:

MATURITY – social, spiritual,
physical and emotional growth.

1.2
What
guidelines do you need to follow in your relationship with the opposite sex
when you are in the process of growing and maturing?

q
relationship

1 Tim 5:1,2

q
friendship

1 Sam 18:1-4

Prov. 17:17

Eccl. 4:9,10

q
honesty

q
‘give attention to all, intention to none’

q
interpersonal relationship skills.

q
‘people are people and not things to be
used’

q
communication skills.

Levels
of communication:

(1)   cliché

(2)   reporting
facts

(3)   expressing
ideas and judgement

(4)   expressing
emotions

(5)   peak
communication

q
commitment
to Lordship and discipleship

Matt 6:33

Matt 10:34-39

Luke 9:23

Rom
12:1

2.
Level
Two: Interest.

2.1
Process:

AQUAINTANCE - getting to know one
another.

2.2
What
guidelines would you follow when you ‘get interested’ in a person
of the opposite sex?

q
dating

q
some considerations in choosing a partner

q
non-Christians

Ex. 34:12-16

Amos 3:3

2 Cor. 6:14-18

1 Cor. 2:14

q
wait

Psalms 27:14

Isa. 64:4

Isa. 30:18

q
how to
discover God’s will?

3.
Level
Three: Going Steady.

3.1
Process:

SHARING –
sharing deeply one’s life” goals and interests. To
know for sure that both of you make a good marriage risk and that your love is
enduring.

3.2
What
guidelines would you follow to enjoy a balanced, developing and God honoring
relationship?

q
knowing for
certain that you are in love with the other person.

q
limiting
physical involvement. - petting

q
purity

Acts 15:20

Eph.5:3

1 Thess. 4:3.7

1 Thess. 5:23

1 Peter 1:15,16

q
self-control

Acts 24:16

Rom 6:12

1 Cor. 9:26

Gal. 5:23

q
temptation and victory

Prov. 1:10,15,16

1 Cor. 10:12,13

James 1:12-15

q
priorities in
life.

q
solving
conflicts.

4.
Level
Four: Engagement.

4.1
Process:

COURTSHIP – preparation for
marriage.

4.2
What
guidelines do you need to biblically fulfill your future roles as partners in a
marriage?

q
‘love is blind,
marriage an eye opener’.

q
becoming a godly
husband.

Eph. 5:32

q
becoming a godly wife

Prov. 31:10-31

1 Peter 3:3-4

2 Kings 4:8-36

q
in-laws

BGR Hand

Level 3: Going Steady

Level 2: Interest

Level 4: Engagement

Level 1: Friendship

GOD

In BGR, there
are three people involved, a boy, a girl and God.                                       God
is the thumb which touches the other fingers (levels of BGR).